Friday, January 27, 2012

"I Can't Do It!"

In the January 2012 Focus on the Family Bulletin, Cheryl Gochnauer wrote this helpful article.

"I Can't Do It!"
Sooner or later, every parent hears these words, usually uttered with a pitiful whine and slump to the floor.  Try these tips to help your youngster turn "I Can't" into "I'll Try."
  • Set Clear Goals.  Explain to your child that his bed doesn't have to be made like Mommy and Daddy's, but he should straighten the blankets and put his pillow in place.
  • Divide the Project into Manageable Pieces.  Instead of telling your child to clean her room, tell her to put away "all the animals" or "every toy that is blue or green."  Continue suggesting different categories until she is finished.
  • Reinforce Past Successes.  Point out specific things your child does well -- setting the table, kicking a ball, feeding the cat, and so on.  Tell him you can't wait to see what he does next.
  • Don't Shield Your Child from Failure.  Let your child work through some frustrations, learning appropriate ways to deal with challenges.  Give her time to wrestle with a problem or try a task a few times before you offer assistance.
  • Encourage Kids to Try, Try Again.  Talk about perseverance and what it means.  Share a story about someone in the Bible or in your family who showed determination.
  • Assume Your Child Will Succeed.  Optimism is Contagious!  -- Cheryl Gochnauer  

To read more from this issue of the Bulletin - a publication of Focus on the Family, pick up a copy at any check-in station in Community Kids at Community Fellowship Church.
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Wednesday, January 25, 2012

Relevant Children's Ministry: Why We Need More Marriage Ministry and Less Children's Ministry

Relevant Children's Ministry: Why We Need More Marriage Ministry and Less Children's Ministry: "The most important factor in a child's spiritual life is his or her parents. No one has more influence..."

Please take the time to click the above link because, "What happens at home is just as important, if not more important, than what happens at church."

Friday, January 20, 2012

Reminder for Children's Ministry

Yesterday I was able to attend a Children's Ministry Network meeting called Shepherds of the Sheep.  We invited John Walton,  Author of the Bible Story Handbook which is an amazing resource for any teacher of the Bible and Professor of Old Testament at Wheaton College who on occasion enjoys living out the Old Testament, a lifestyle that helped him lead a team of 30 international scholars to write the Zondervan Illustrated Bible Backgrounds Commentary on the Old Testament (November 2009).

John Walton gave us some really great reminders so I thought I would pass them along.

  • Don't just settle for Truth. Shoot for Authority!
    • Teaching Truth is a non-negotiable, but when teaching God's Word you must make sure that the truth you are teaching is founded in the Authority of the text.
  • Be God Focused.  It's all about God and His Story.  Focus on what He's like, what He's done and is doing, and what He expects of His People and how we can respond appropriately.
    • Our lessons need to move away from Values, Heroes, Ethics and Behavior Modification focused.
  • When teaching the Narratives, Investigate.
    • Why is this a part of Scripture?
    • How does this narrative operate within the context of Scripture?

Thank you, John Walton, for this Great Reminder!

Friday, January 13, 2012

A Marriage with Two Brains

I was with a group of Guys a couple of weeks ago discussing how we can be better Husbands.  We all agreed that our Marriages would be perfect if we could keep them in a Box ... But as you will see/hear in this video that's not going to happen.

Knowing how your Spouse thinks is key to having a Marriage that is filled with Love and Respect.

Marriage expert Mark Gungor explores the differences between men and women.

Friday, January 06, 2012

Words to Live by in 2012

Last week a Friend of mine on Facebook and in real life asked a question of sorts.  "In one word, sum up 2011." The responses were both positive and negative.  Ranging for Crazy, Sad, Rewarding, Fast, 2011?, Blessed, Accomplished, Insane, etc.  It prompted me to think and rehearse the events of my life in 2011, and what word or words I would use to describe it.

It became pretty clear to me that I was not going to be able to settle on just one word, but I could narrow it down to a singular progression of three words.  First there was WAITING.  Waiting for the Lord, which is something that I do not enjoy, by balancing the tension of uncertainty and of trusting in an all-knowing supreme God.  Then Waiting turned into ANTICIPATION.  The Lord was present and starting to move.  All I had to do was join Him with excited Anticipation.  Finally then, I am experiencing a TRANSFORMATION as God moved my family and me along a new path and set our course in a new way and ministry for His glory.

So what Word(s) define your last year or current situation?

While I firmly believe that it is important to rehearse and review the course of your life, we cannot allow our eyes to be entranced by what we see in the rear view mirror.  So let's look forward, and ask, "What Words will define your 2012?"

Proverbs 3:1-10, may give us some direction as we set some words before us to mark our way through 2012.

·         OBEY – Proverbs 3:1-2
o   Don’t forget my Commands/Teachings - Mind
o   Keep them in your Heart
o   Prove your Love by OBEYING – John 14:15  If you love me (Jesus) then Keep/Obey my commands.
§  Prosperity = SHALOM
·        Shalom means completeness, wholeness, health, peace, welfare, safety soundness, tranquility, prosperity, perfectness, fullness, rest, harmony, the absence of agitation or discord. 
         §  Shalom:  Prolong your Life

·         LOVE -  FAITHFULNESS – Proverbs 3:3-4
o   Steadfast Love – Mercy & Truth
§  bind . . . Neck - outwardly Wear Love & Faithfulness in All you do
§  write . . . Heart - inwardly govern our motives with Love & Faithfulness – who you are
§  Shalom: Favor and Good name with God and Man - Repuation
·         TRUST – Proverbs 3:5-6
o   With ALL your Heart
o   Don’t Lean on yourself - False sense of stability will always crumble
o   Lean on God in and for All things 
§  Shalom: Paths Straight 

·         WORSHIP – Proverbs 3:7-8
o   Deep Reverance for God
§  Set aside your own wisdom and shun evil
§  Fixing your Eyes to Jesus – Hebrewa 12:2
o   Submission to His Lordship and Commands
§  Shalom: Health to your Body

·         GIVE – Proverbs 3:9-10
o   Honor the Lord with your Wealth
§  No matter how much wealth you have there is always someone who has more.
§  We are Rich/Wealthy
o   First Fruits!
§  Give First
§  Live Second
·         Don’t allow your life to get in the way of your Giving
§  Shalom: Barns will be filled
·         Phil. 4:19 - And my God will meet all your needs according to the riches of his glory in Christ Jesus.

Let these Words define your Life in 2012!